In my laundry room just above the wash trough, where the bottom of the timber window frame ends, lives a large black spider. Most of the time it stays hidden from view, or with just the tips of her feet in view. I know it’s a female, as one day a plethora of tiny new hatchings set forth from there. In general terms, I respect spiders and don’t interfere with them as they live their lives. In the garden spiders are a wonderful asset as a bug predator and I try not to disturb them.
The red-backed spider I treat differently. It has a lethal bite and has a habit of occupying places that bring it into contact with either myself or my pets. In the summer time, I’ll go out in the evening and do the ‘spider patrol’ and kill any in the outside region of the house. One day I may change my behaviour, but for now that is what I do. The only other spider I have an aversion to is a black thickset spider, and it will inhabit places that also bring it into contact with me.
Just like the spider in my laundry.
When I first noticed her over a year ago, I tried to kill her but she evaded my efforts and retreated into a gap out of my reach. I even resorted to using insect spray – something I rarely do – but that had no effect on her. So I put it into the ‘difficult to deal with right now basket’ and kept a close eye on her when I was using the trough. Over time, I became accustomed to her presence until the day came when she was not to be seen. My first reaction surprised me. I was actually missing her! I couldn’t believe it, but there it was. I had bonded with a spider I had tried to kill. A moment or so later, she appeared and I was relieved.
Now there’s an acceptance that she can live there, I’ll leave her be. Oh my, how I’ve changed…..